15 Surefire Ways to Spice Things Up in the Bedroom


Hey, guys. Things getting a little stale in the bedroom? Well, you’ve come to the right place. I’ve put together a comprehensive list of surefire tricks to break out of that slump.

1. Sexting

Dirty pictures are not only fun to receive but they’re fun to take. Wear something sexy or wear nothing at all. You don’t have to send them a full nude, you can send them their favorite body part of you.

It’s a great way to get the sexual energy flowing, and it’s a great strategy for how to spice up the bedroom. When they’re downstairs watching TV, send them a dirty picture from the bedroom. They’ll come running.

2. Introduce Sex Toys for Couples

Whether you’re looking to add some variety to your bedroom repertoire or you just want to make getting your or his orgasms easier, these are the best sex toys for couples to help you get the job done. Would you rather go solo? These are the best sex toys for women.

3. Skip the Bed

The best things to try in the bedroom may not even happen in the bedroom! Skip the bed and try sex in a different place! Try a midnight quickie on your garden or maybe do it on the kitchen when your partner least expects it!

4. Get Inspired by Past Sexploits

This tip is particularly useful for couples who have been together for an extended period of time. If partners are trying to figure out the best way to add a little oomph, Banner suggests they think back to what they used to do when they were first together.

“Sometimes we start there so we can talk about ‘Well why aren’t we doing that now? Why can’t we bring that back?’” says Banner. The logic here is pretty simple: It worked before, it can probably work again.

5. Read Erotica To Her

50 Shades of Grey was just the first book to get attention. Smut has been written for YEARS, and there are so many books a bazillion times better than the saga of Christian and Ana. In fact, reading smutty books made me realize that I wanted to try butt sex.

While I enjoy the narrative surrounding the sexual encounters, my husband just wants to know what I want him to do to me. So while I read the whole story, I’ll give him the kinky highlights to peruse as I rub my body up against him like a horny little creature in heat.

And get this, guys: There’s even smut that makes the use of condoms downright sexy foreplay; now that’s erotic literature.

6. Add Some Alcohol

Alcohol has always been known as the quickest and most effective aphrodisiac. If you want to get laid, you add a little alcohol to your game. You know that relaxed feeling you get when you drink? That’s the perfect time to get sexy because everything is just going to pleasurably flow.

If you plan to spice up thing is the bedroom, try drinking a glass or two of wine during dinner or before you go to bed. Not only will the feeling of alcohol swimming inside your head turn you and your lady on, but the idea of having alcohol is already a turn on for her. Just take it easy, because too much alcohol will ruin the mood and sex, too.

7. Talk About Fantasies

One of the very best ways to keep your sex life going strong, especially if you are in a long-term relationship with someone, is to always be honest with them about what you want in the bedroom.

8. Play Games

If you have a significant history with your partner, take turns asking one another questions about your time together. Try “Where was our first date?” or “When was our first kiss?” If they answer correctly, you have to remove an article of clothing. If you stump them, their clothes come off.

Or give sex dice a roll. We’ve all seen those dice that tell you “[action] a [body part].” Try making your own. Together, list your six favorite sex acts for one die, and decide who gives and who receives on odds and evens for the other. Take turn rolling the dice and enjoying your favorite moves.

9. Watch Porn Together

This can be a tricky one, since often the guy in a heterosexual relationship will be the one who’s more comfortable with watching porn. However, if your partner is already a seasoned porn aficionado or simply curious and willing to explore it with you, it can be a great way to add some much-needed spice to the relationship.

If you are the more experienced porn watcher, however, you should hand the reins over to your less-experienced partner and let them decide what you watch or don’t watch so they don’t feel yanked out of their comfort zone too quickly. In that scenario, it’s better to start slowly — maybe even with soft-corn porn, where there’s no penetration — and work your way up to more intense content.

10. New Sex Positions

Sex with your partner is fun, whether it’s cowgirl or upside down. Make their night and drive them crazy with these 8 sultry sex positions that can help any guy spice things up in the bedroom for their woman!

Help spice things up in and out of the bedroom and hit that elusive g spot with these sex positions.

11. Admire Others Secretly Together

If you want to know how to spice up your relationship but don’t want to spend a ton of time or money, this tip is a great one to start with. Expressing attraction and admiration for other men and women is normal and healthy.

Is it that next door neighbor you’d like to see your wife fuck? Or would she like to have a threesome with the former babysitter (who’s now 21!). Many couples find that opening up about their natural feelings not only enlivens their attraction to one another, but it also deepens their connection.

12. Pose for the Camera

Spice up your sex life with a little bedroom photo shoot! Whether you decide to hire a photographer for the occasion or just use your phone camera, these shoots can really give you a huge confidence boost. There are few things more empowering than realizing how sexy you are at this age.

Own your sexuality, flaunt your body. It could give you the confidence you need to own things in the bedroom too. And just because you take these photos doesn’t mean you have to send them to anyone — they can be for your eyes only!

13. Play Different Music

If you normally play one kind of music during love making, play something different, like hard rock, something from the 60s, or even some dub step. Music affects our mood and, knowing that, many people create play lists on YouTube for things like sex and seduction.

Explore different music on the nights you want to seduce him and set the mood for some fun action in the bedroom. If that doesn’t work, try nature sounds. Ocean waves are soothing and seductive. Wild sounds from the jungle are also exotic and fun.

14. Take Sex Supplements

bottle pouring pills on a male’s hand

Some herbs and supplements are a natural aphrodisiac. Certain nutrients and herbs can be extremely helpful if your sex drives needs a boost. Zinc is essential for hormone balance and sex drive, hence the old wives’ tale of using oysters, which contain high amounts of zinc, as an aphrodisiac.

The amino acid l-arginine [found in meats like turkey and chicken] is important for good blood circulation in those areas, which are important for a healthy sex life. Vitamin B3 helps to reduce tiredness and fatigue, which is important if you feel too tired to have sex.

Other herbs such as damiana and ginger can be beneficial as well as maca, which is a Peruvian herb used by women for energy, for endurance and hormone balance.

15. Pleasure Yourself in Front of Each Other

Masturbating allows your partner to see you enjoy pleasure, which can build intimacy,” says Moon. Allowing your partner to witness how and where you like to be touched is practicing a level of vulnerability that encourages closeness. Masturbation also has numerous health benefits, including improving your mood and relieving pent-up stress, which is a great primer for more sex.

Wear a remote-control sex toy on your date and let your partner hold the remote control. Use it as a form of extended foreplay to put your libidos in overdrive before you reach home.


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